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Post by krissythebike on Apr 2, 2008 23:31:21 GMT 8
im sorry, i did not made my question clear...hehe i mean if you are in that situation, what would you do??? hehe im not asking advice...hehe! (palusot pa. joke!) for me, its really difficult to decide, to the point that i will lose them both...
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Post by anshwa on Apr 3, 2008 0:14:29 GMT 8
im sorry, i did not made my question clear...hehe i mean if you are in that situation, what would you do??? hehe im not asking advice...hehe! (palusot pa. joke!) for me, its really difficult to decide, to the point that i will lose them both... Well if that's how you put it... If I'm in a relationship, then that means I'm happy with the one I'm with at that moment. I would have to tell the woman I WAS waiting for so long that I could not possibly marry her as I love the woman I am with.
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Post by leflea on Apr 3, 2008 9:35:03 GMT 8
i'd like to add that when you ask to marry someone, then it should be unconditional. not because of reasons like you couldn't wait any longer for another someone... or else the proposal was in vain.l im sorry, i did not made my question clear...hehe i mean if you are in that situation, what would you do??? hehe im not asking advice...hehe! (palusot pa. joke!) for me, its really difficult to decide, to the point that i will lose them both... Well if that's how you put it... If I'm in a relationship, then that means I'm happy with the one I'm with at that moment. I would have to tell the woman I WAS waiting for so long that I could not possibly marry her as I love the woman I am with.
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Post by leflea on Apr 3, 2008 9:37:00 GMT 8
your wife must be very proud of you sir What would you do if you're already in a relationship and the one you've been waiting for comes to you and finally ask you to marry him/her? mmmmm.... i had this situation when i was about to marry my gf then whose my wife now.. the other girl whom i really would want to spend the rest of my life with, came back and was trying to win me back..was into pins and needles that time because the thought of having the girl that you loved before and whom you really wanted is infront of you saying she'd be a submissive wife if ever i'd marry her and give up my gf then whom i was suppose to marry... my decision.. i talked to the girl and asked her to move on without me, that there will never be the two us..i thanked her for knowing that she still loves me that much but it is never right and enough to give up my gf whom i am supposed to marry....that i may be hurting for my decision but i wanted to think that there is nothing that i should regret about for it is still always the best way to stay at the right track..that most of the right things are really the most difficult to do..but that was the right thing to do.. that i'd be whole of a man to stick to my decision of marrying wy wife...my wife who saw me and was with me on my best and on my simpliest..even on my worst... that i knew inside me that everything will be fine...more better now that we will be having our baby...that i love my wife and our baby in her womb more than anyone else.. that they are my ultimate end and the reason for me to be a better person.. i had to wishes then.. first is not to regret my decision..second is to be happy with my decision... i got both!
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Post by absolutezero on Apr 3, 2008 11:07:25 GMT 8
im sorry, i did not made my question clear...hehe i mean if you are in that situation, what would you do??? hehe im not asking advice...hehe! (palusot pa. joke!) for me, its really difficult to decide, to the point that i will lose them both... you cant have your cake and eat it too.. if you make a decision, you should live with its consequences..
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Post by absolutezero on Apr 3, 2008 11:10:16 GMT 8
your wife must be very proud of you sir i had this situation when i was about to marry my gf then whose my wife now.. the other girl whom i really would want to spend the rest of my life with, came back and was trying to win me back..was into pins and needles that time because the thought of having the girl that you loved before and whom you really wanted is infront of you saying she'd be a submissive wife if ever i'd marry her and give up my gf then whom i was suppose to marry... my decision.. i talked to the girl and asked her to move on without me, that there will never be the two us..i thanked her for knowing that she still loves me that much but it is never right and enough to give up my gf whom i am supposed to marry....that i may be hurting for my decision but i wanted to think that there is nothing that i should regret about for it is still always the best way to stay at the right track..that most of the right things are really the most difficult to do..but that was the right thing to do.. that i'd be whole of a man to stick to my decision of marrying wy wife...my wife who saw me and was with me on my best and on my simpliest..even on my worst... that i knew inside me that everything will be fine...more better now that we will be having our baby...that i love my wife and our baby in her womb more than anyone else.. that they are my ultimate end and the reason for me to be a better person.. i had to wishes then.. first is not to regret my decision..second is to be happy with my decision... i got both! and seeing my wife with her big tummy (7 mos preggy) makes me more than proud too
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 3, 2008 18:29:02 GMT 8
too late for what...i know someone who's just having second toughts about situations on being "too late"...he thinks that he's too late, but thing is dude, it's never too late, there's no church bell ringing, you have to up to your stand and the thing is you might end up with never ending "what if's".....man...it's better ti hit a dead end beacuse atleast you know where ur at right?...rather than living whimsically in a world of "what might have been, wish i've done that, or i should had listened ..."...dude...it's not yet late...today is thursday, tomorrow you can go there....got get her, atleast you tried...who knows you might win over a razor's edge....
dude...charge it to experience....i'm living in a world of whimsically make believe, then what hurts me are this words..."it was you whom i want after all".
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Post by enzo on Apr 3, 2008 18:44:44 GMT 8
Trust your instinct,,,,listen to your heart,,,but dont forget to think hard!!!! Dont get carried away with words from the ladies such as, "You're the only one for me" "What will I do without you" "I wont be able to find another like you" It's very easy to tickle/ boost your ego and forget about the other one. It's your call.
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Post by enzo on Apr 3, 2008 18:47:13 GMT 8
im sorry, i did not made my question clear...hehe i mean if you are in that situation, what would you do??? hehe im not asking advice...hehe! (palusot pa. joke!) for me, its really difficult to decide, to the point that i will lose them both... I have been in the same situation before, the only solution is to marry them both.. To be able to marry them both legally, I must convert to Islam so I can marry up to 4 wives..... But I cannot renounce my religion so sorry na lang sila. ;D Again Krissy, we still dont know your situation or the girls' situation so how can we answer you properly, I cannot give an an opinion if I dont know how and why I was with the other and why I waiting for the other. But if you put it that way, it's a simple as ABC. You're waiting for her, now she's here proposing.
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Post by gadgets88 on Apr 23, 2008 12:43:57 GMT 8
you cant have your cake and eat it too.. if you make a decision, you should live with its consequences.. Let me share this story: Once a friend of mine decided to get married. He told a girl that he's surgically removing all his other relationships, including this one. He said he can't have his cake and have it all to himself. To which the girl replied: "Why not?" Then the guy cried quietly (infront of other friends) for a long time (maybe 5 minutes). Then the girl disappeared forever. Ganon nya kamahal yung guy... (Trans: she's the ONE, best ONE in bed, in the pool, in the kitchen table... darn!) Moral of the story: There's no better one, lesser one. Each one is the ONE. YOU just choose one (and work hard to make it work!)
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Post by Ben Dover on Apr 23, 2008 13:10:26 GMT 8
my last take on the subject.
make your life as easy and simple as possible...make your decision and focus on it... then burn all the bridges...keep old letters, pictures and memories of past relationships somewhere safe.. where your future wife will never find...as wise peeps say...in the fireplace..between the burning logs.
my 2 centavos.
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