Post by kulot_salot on Jan 10, 2008 10:42:37 GMT 8
It is usually harder for guys to get a girlfriend than it is for girls to get a boyfriend. For all those who haven't been lucky or are in the love department, follow these steps to become someone.
Steps
1. Have good personal hygiene. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to get women. For the most part, just caring about how you look is enough. Wear new clothes that fit, and make sure that your body is clean (important).
2. Keep up a good posture, walk steadily and smile. Women do not like slouchers. Bad posture gives an air of lack of confidence. Smiling makes a guy more welcoming. A good walking style, (straight back, a hand in the pocket and taking well distanced strides) gives the impression of intelligence.
3. Adapt your appearance. Clean up for a high-class city girl. Dress down for the fun-loving motorbike chick.
4. Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women immediately lower their value. Go out with your friends to a bar or club (or any public place, such as a bookstore, if you're more of the studious type) and start out by genuinely having a good time. The Internet does not count.
5. Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Pitch jokes to other people first and see how the jokes do with them. If you get no laughs there, just pray, because it's gonna be hard winning a girl without humor.
6. "Plant some seeds". Flirt casually with waitresses. Make a passing comment and smile to a girl walking by. Toast a woman at the bar. Then go back to having a good time with your friends. In short time, you'll notice women slowly gravitating to you.
7. Qualify them. Don't be a jerk about it... but in a fun, playful way, make her prove her value to you. Something as simple as "Are you open-minded? Cool, because I like open-minded people."
8. Talk. Silence is uncomfortable. (On the other hand, women or men who do nothing but talk and never listen can be annoying.)
9. Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself that you can relate to. WARNING: If she gives you something like "Oh, I like to go shopping", don't reward her for that. It's not unique. Instead, ask for more information and then connect with it.
10. Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy.
11. Feel great. The feeling will radiate and affect the lady too.
12. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't, you may think you will win her over with like mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead.
13. Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. "You know, I just realized it. Not only are you pretty, but you're fun to talk to."
14. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine."
15. And once you establish that special, exclusive relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend do not--I repeat--do not stop the chivalry. Women are too special to only be waited on conditionally. The best way to show her you care is to continue to do the little things for her. You still need to open her car door, walk her home, kiss her goodnight. ALWAYS call her at night to bid her goodnight (it's best to wait a few hours after your date to do this, otherwise you'll seem a tad desperate.) Remember, show affection and respect and you'll get affection and respect.
Tips
* Put on great-smelling aftershave or cologne. Research the best-selling ones at department stores. Unless, that is, the girls you like tend to be more on the outdoors or tomboy side of things. Some girls detest the scent of cologne. Do not marinate yourself with scents. Ladies complain of too much cologne, not too little. Do not exceed the maximum of three sprays on the upper body. Especially if you wear cologne every day. It's the general problem where a person gradually become accustomed to the cologne levels in their own scent that they need more and more of the stuff to be able to smell it themselves. You might not be able to smell it, but it's there.
* Guys do not need to look like Brad Pitt to find a girlfriend. Just keep hair, teeth and nails clean and neat. Ladies are quick to notice little details especially in the hands and faces.
* Be a good conversationalist. Read up on the latest in politics, entertainment, arts and even sports news. Women love a well-informed man. It makes him look well-educated and, therefore, richer in every aspect. Or just actually be well-educated.
* Do listen to the lady before responding. Women do not like to be cut off. They like to be considered and feel important.
* Do pay on the first drink, first date, first taxi cab ride, etc. It makes a gentleman out of a man.
* Very important - offer to walk or drive the lady home (or anywhere she wants to go). This makes the man seem sincerely concerned for her well-being.
* Don't say things you need to explain, this is the biggest mood killer.
* Be honest and forthright, but not aggressive. Girls appreciate you telling them how you feel.
* Don't annoy your girl by texting her every night. If she texts you, reply but unless you have something to say then don't text. It gets annoying when someone keeps texting you saying "what r u doing?", so if you absolutely can't go without saying something everyday, at least correct your grammar. At the very minimum, spell words correctly.
* Don't be afraid to display your affection in public.
* Dress to match, Black and Whites, Browns and Blues, even if they don't say anything, girls notice.
* Don't be afraid to touch her, if you find yourself flirting, lightly touch her arm or waist.
* Be a gentleman! Open car doors for her and remember the "ladies first" rule
* Be Yourself
Warnings
* Do not attempt to stalk the lady!
* Do not ask out someone if you do not have somewhere to take her.
* Do not ask out someone too young because they are probably not ready.
* Grinning like the Cheshire cat is creepy. Unless she likes that, but hey it's your girl.
* Taking over the entire conversation is over-bearing and rude.
* Do not insist relentlessly on an offer when the lady has turned it down. It may be that she has no use for or does not feel good about the suggestion. Pushing her to accept will only increase the possibility of rejection.
* Avoid being a close talker. Nobody likes that.
* Don't make disgusting body jokes, or fart a lot. Girls hate that.
* Don't make her feel like a sex object instead of a human being, unless you're trying to get a loose girl. Less promiscuous girls are turned off by such patronization and bigotry.
Steps
1. Have good personal hygiene. You don't have to be Brad Pitt to get women. For the most part, just caring about how you look is enough. Wear new clothes that fit, and make sure that your body is clean (important).
2. Keep up a good posture, walk steadily and smile. Women do not like slouchers. Bad posture gives an air of lack of confidence. Smiling makes a guy more welcoming. A good walking style, (straight back, a hand in the pocket and taking well distanced strides) gives the impression of intelligence.
3. Adapt your appearance. Clean up for a high-class city girl. Dress down for the fun-loving motorbike chick.
4. Pick a location frequented by a significant number of girls where you feel fairly comfortable, perhaps a place that is conducive to a skill of yours: music, public speaking, or a private intimate conversation. Go out and have a good time. Guys who stare and walk around constantly looking for women immediately lower their value. Go out with your friends to a bar or club (or any public place, such as a bookstore, if you're more of the studious type) and start out by genuinely having a good time. The Internet does not count.
5. Be funny. If you're not naturally funny, don't try too hard around her. Pitch jokes to other people first and see how the jokes do with them. If you get no laughs there, just pray, because it's gonna be hard winning a girl without humor.
6. "Plant some seeds". Flirt casually with waitresses. Make a passing comment and smile to a girl walking by. Toast a woman at the bar. Then go back to having a good time with your friends. In short time, you'll notice women slowly gravitating to you.
7. Qualify them. Don't be a jerk about it... but in a fun, playful way, make her prove her value to you. Something as simple as "Are you open-minded? Cool, because I like open-minded people."
8. Talk. Silence is uncomfortable. (On the other hand, women or men who do nothing but talk and never listen can be annoying.)
9. Connect with her. Find out what you have in common, and reward her with a smile and a story of your own if she tells you something unique about herself that you can relate to. WARNING: If she gives you something like "Oh, I like to go shopping", don't reward her for that. It's not unique. Instead, ask for more information and then connect with it.
10. Look and touch. Looking into a girl's eyes shows respect and interest. A firm handshake, a gentle pat on the back, a light touch of the hand and other subtle gestures allow the girl to feel connected with the guy.
11. Feel great. The feeling will radiate and affect the lady too.
12. Don't pretend to be someone you aren't, you may think you will win her over with like mindedness, but in the end she will find you out. Find a common interest, something you both like instead.
13. Show your interest. The best way to get out of the "friend trap" is to avoid it from the start. After finding common interests, make your intentions clear. "You know, I just realized it. Not only are you pretty, but you're fun to talk to."
14. Ask for her number. Give her your phone, tell her "Put your number in my phone and I'll call your phone so you'll have mine."
15. And once you establish that special, exclusive relationship of boyfriend and girlfriend do not--I repeat--do not stop the chivalry. Women are too special to only be waited on conditionally. The best way to show her you care is to continue to do the little things for her. You still need to open her car door, walk her home, kiss her goodnight. ALWAYS call her at night to bid her goodnight (it's best to wait a few hours after your date to do this, otherwise you'll seem a tad desperate.) Remember, show affection and respect and you'll get affection and respect.
Tips
* Put on great-smelling aftershave or cologne. Research the best-selling ones at department stores. Unless, that is, the girls you like tend to be more on the outdoors or tomboy side of things. Some girls detest the scent of cologne. Do not marinate yourself with scents. Ladies complain of too much cologne, not too little. Do not exceed the maximum of three sprays on the upper body. Especially if you wear cologne every day. It's the general problem where a person gradually become accustomed to the cologne levels in their own scent that they need more and more of the stuff to be able to smell it themselves. You might not be able to smell it, but it's there.
* Guys do not need to look like Brad Pitt to find a girlfriend. Just keep hair, teeth and nails clean and neat. Ladies are quick to notice little details especially in the hands and faces.
* Be a good conversationalist. Read up on the latest in politics, entertainment, arts and even sports news. Women love a well-informed man. It makes him look well-educated and, therefore, richer in every aspect. Or just actually be well-educated.
* Do listen to the lady before responding. Women do not like to be cut off. They like to be considered and feel important.
* Do pay on the first drink, first date, first taxi cab ride, etc. It makes a gentleman out of a man.
* Very important - offer to walk or drive the lady home (or anywhere she wants to go). This makes the man seem sincerely concerned for her well-being.
* Don't say things you need to explain, this is the biggest mood killer.
* Be honest and forthright, but not aggressive. Girls appreciate you telling them how you feel.
* Don't annoy your girl by texting her every night. If she texts you, reply but unless you have something to say then don't text. It gets annoying when someone keeps texting you saying "what r u doing?", so if you absolutely can't go without saying something everyday, at least correct your grammar. At the very minimum, spell words correctly.
* Don't be afraid to display your affection in public.
* Dress to match, Black and Whites, Browns and Blues, even if they don't say anything, girls notice.
* Don't be afraid to touch her, if you find yourself flirting, lightly touch her arm or waist.
* Be a gentleman! Open car doors for her and remember the "ladies first" rule
* Be Yourself
Warnings
* Do not attempt to stalk the lady!
* Do not ask out someone if you do not have somewhere to take her.
* Do not ask out someone too young because they are probably not ready.
* Grinning like the Cheshire cat is creepy. Unless she likes that, but hey it's your girl.
* Taking over the entire conversation is over-bearing and rude.
* Do not insist relentlessly on an offer when the lady has turned it down. It may be that she has no use for or does not feel good about the suggestion. Pushing her to accept will only increase the possibility of rejection.
* Avoid being a close talker. Nobody likes that.
* Don't make disgusting body jokes, or fart a lot. Girls hate that.
* Don't make her feel like a sex object instead of a human being, unless you're trying to get a loose girl. Less promiscuous girls are turned off by such patronization and bigotry.
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