my name is daren lau, a long time friend and colleague of eric reyes/essworks.
i am initiating this thread with the hope that someone might know of and advise me of his whereabouts. judging from the responses to his "a liar's word" thread, it seems that he's familiar to some of you chaps.
it is comforting to know that he is in the company of good men who chose to look beyond his "revelations" and still see him fit as a comrade. i have known eric for many years and i will say that he is every bit worthy of the friendship that each and everyone of you has afforded him.
yes there is a reason behind all this, which all the more makes it urgent for me to reach him. i shall appreciate any and all help. other than the pm, please do direct your responses to my addy lau.daren@ yahoo.com
greetings. about a week or so ago i pm-ed a request to the site administrator to delete esswork's thread "a liar's word". i did so because it was, in my mind, the least proper thing i could do for my friend.
i would like to share the contents of that pm, not as much as to give reason to what he said but more so to preserve the reputation of a man that many of his friends have come to know and respect;
my name is daren lau (forum handle doc) and i wish to request the deletion of the thread "a liar's word" initiated by essworks, eric reyes.
his thread has caused a host of reactions, largely of disbelief and disappointments. while he has been looked up to and seen as a source of inspiration by some, his revelation has put him in a somewhat bad perspective for many.
i have known eric for a long time. he is a dear friend, a competent colleague, and (of late) an unwilling patient.
eric is a ward of the teh foundation, bhd in malaysia and i am his attending case physician. off the record, i will say that eric does have cancer. he has been struggling with his sickness for the past 8 years and thus far he has managed to survive 2 bouts with cancer and is currently dealing with a metastasis to a 3rd site. in august of last year, he opted to cease all therapies & medication. wary as we were about his choice we nevertheless respected his reasons.
eric's statements are symptomatic of a psychological trauma associated with his cancer, complicated by his lack of therapy and medications. there has been much concern for him among us here in kl ever since i was referred to this thread and we have been exercising all ways and means to locate him.
through the last 8 years, eric has largely chosen to keep his condition and struggles to himself. i believe he wrote the thread as a means of deferring the concerns and attention he feels he may have brought on himself, choosing to push people away by creating an admission that he had lied about having cancer.
it is with these concerns that prompts me to have the thread deleted. as i close friend, i feel eric has gone through enough anguish with his condition and it does no merit to bring anymore (perceived) embarassment onto himself.
as you take the matter into consideration, i shall likewise ask you to be discreet with the details i have shared regarding eric. these are matters intimate of and privy to his personal life.
dr. daren lau teh foundation, bhd
i do believe this matter should be closed now. as i had said, eric/essworks has gone through enough and the only tangible thing he has to hold on to now for himself is his self-respect.
as a last note, we did manage to find him through sheer luck, a bit worse for wear but ever the stubborn survivor. my thanks for the chaps who helped out.