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Post by Ben Dover on Apr 2, 2008 13:37:27 GMT 8
peeps, i have only one question..uhm maybe a couple..but first question first...is it worth it?
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Post by enzo on Apr 2, 2008 13:53:12 GMT 8
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@ enzo...sir, i think it's not the length of the relationship is the basis for getting married..right? her being "down" is because of lotsa factors, relationship,home,office ....i bet every relationship has it down side and it's just up to them (the girl and boy) how to make things work.....i haven't asked if they're active in some other things....
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10 years is 10 years! even if you are not engaged to marry, in that length of time,,,,, faith, trust and love is already there, maybe even sex.
I dont think there is nothing more to hide from each other if they were on for 10 years. Unless they never had sex or the guy was torpe. In that time too, the lady should've seduced her aggressively if she wanted sex.
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Post by enzo on Apr 2, 2008 13:54:36 GMT 8
tama! look for singles.... single-mom. ;D <enzo number 1 fan here> ;D Yeah baby Jaymz! I hope you know how to tell if she had a child/children. My bad I was reffering to the woman's body as how to tell if she had given birth to a child or children.
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 2, 2008 14:06:31 GMT 8
@ sir ben over i asked that question lotsa times to my friend...and her answer is..."it's worthy"...she told me that every little smile that their unfair relationship gives her is worth it...i told her that i really can't understand her on that and she told me that "if you were in my shoe"
@ sir enzo yes i know ten years is one long length, bu thte thing is there are even longer relationships which are on their 15th or even longer, married, lotsa kids but still they don't end up forever. yes they have there "happily ever after" but what comes next after "ever after"?
i really don't support on the "number two" stuff, i sometimes tell her...dump them both and get another one...or i'm asking questions such as what if he'll get you pregnant?....
shucks!
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Post by enzo on Apr 2, 2008 14:13:51 GMT 8
@ sir ben over i asked that question lotsa times to my friend...and her answer is..."it's worthy"...she told me that every little smile that their unfair relationship gives her is worth it...i told her that i really can't understand her on that and she told me that "if you were in my shoe" @ sir enzo yes i know ten years is one long length, bu thte thing is there are even longer relationships which are on their 15th or even longer, married, lotsa kids but still they don't end up forever. yes they have there "happily ever after" but what comes next after "ever after"? i really don't support on the "number two" stuff, i sometimes tell her...dump them both and get another one...or i'm asking questions such as what if he'll get you pregnant?.... shucks! Are they married? or just steadies? It's pretty obvious that she is intoxicated with the new found relationship and the adventure/excitement the forbidden gives. If she says it's worth it, Wait till she cut the string with the first one and see what happens. At least she found what she was looking for. People go through their lives not knowing what they want.
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 2, 2008 14:41:01 GMT 8
they are not married.....they're living in together for 5 years now, i can't tell if she'll dump her long time one....
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Post by enzo on Apr 2, 2008 15:03:12 GMT 8
they are not married.....they're living in together for 5 years now, i can't tell if she'll dump her long time one.... They're living together for 5 years and you cant tell if she will dump him??? 10 years relationship and 5 years was under one roof, one room, one bed. Am I right? and the hunk came in when?
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Post by sdny on Apr 2, 2008 15:03:31 GMT 8
this kind of story is similar to my best friend also [she] hmmmmmnpppppp........but now she is a single mom.......
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Post by xctofi on Apr 2, 2008 15:09:30 GMT 8
they are not married.....they're living in together for 5 years now, i can't tell if she'll dump her long time one.... shouldn't be yours or anyone else's problem if you ask me
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 2, 2008 15:28:35 GMT 8
sir XCTOFI,
it's just that i'm a part of it.
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Post by xctofi on Apr 2, 2008 15:35:52 GMT 8
not really sure how you got to be a "part" of it but you know,don't mind me,i just got distracted from reading bike related stuff.carry on...
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 2, 2008 15:40:36 GMT 8
it's okay...i'm apples...sir XCTOFI
@sydny.....yes...maybe i there are some things where your friend can comment and share for stuff like this...
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Post by Ben Dover on Apr 2, 2008 16:01:53 GMT 8
@ ben over i asked that question lotsa times to my friend...and her answer is..."it's worthy"...she told me that every little smile that their unfair relationship gives her is worth it...i told her that i really can't understand her on that and she told me that "if you were in my shoe" wow tsalap! i guess that's all i need to know...thanks sire-andre i have no more questions your honor...the witness can now be cross examined by the prosecution. LOL ;D
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Post by knobbyist on Apr 2, 2008 16:06:23 GMT 8
guys i'm all outta resources on what will i say....any other things?...or better yet examples even? i honestly don't think that there is anything you can say that will get through to your friend right now. yes... i also believe that she intoxicated with this forbidden relationship with the new guy. masarap ang bawal eh... i'd suggest you tell her to be prepared for the consequences though. when people live together in one roof for that long, oddly enough they sometimes consider themselves married and you never know what his boyfriend will do if ever he finds out about this. men go nucking futs about things like this and they are rarely kept secret long enough. oh and remind me never to tell you any secrets when where out riding the trails brad. hehehe! joke lang. ;D
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Post by kulot_salot on Apr 2, 2008 16:11:47 GMT 8
guys i'm all outta resources on what will i say....any other things?...or better yet examples even? tell her to login to MTC
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Post by ghorio on Apr 2, 2008 16:32:23 GMT 8
guys i'm all outta resources on what will i say....any other things?...or better yet examples even? i'd suggest you tell her to be prepared for the consequences.... This is truly right brad! Just remind her and let her realize the consequences of her actions or whatever further actions she may take.... then go
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Post by leflea on Apr 2, 2008 17:46:00 GMT 8
knobs, come join an mp3 ride... we'll talk about a lot of things.... what is heard during a trail ride, will stay on the trails. promise, except for occasional pang-aalaska which is a standard gesture between friends guys i'm all outta resources on what will i say....any other things?...or better yet examples even? i honestly don't think that there is anything you can say that will get through to your friend right now. yes... i also believe that she intoxicated with this forbidden relationship with the new guy. masarap ang bawal eh... i'd suggest you tell her to be prepared for the consequences though. when people live together in one roof for that long, oddly enough they sometimes consider themselves married and you never know what his boyfriend will do if ever he finds out about this. men go nucking futs about things like this and they are rarely kept secret long enough. oh and remind me never to tell you any secrets when where out riding the trails brad. hehehe! joke lang. ;D
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Post by knobbyist on Apr 2, 2008 18:01:27 GMT 8
ei flea... was just kidding about that. hahaha! but wait... wheeler told me earlier today its gonna be bato this weekend. oh and two timing... bad.
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Post by leflea on Apr 2, 2008 18:40:17 GMT 8
@knobs, bato, for confirmation pa daw sabi king (tentative). monday, king is still thinking about an mp3 ride. let's wait for our majesty's decision. and oh, do you have "Number Two" stories? comm'n tell na...
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Post by knobbyist on Apr 2, 2008 20:49:05 GMT 8
@knobs, bato, for confirmation pa daw sabi king (tentative). monday, king is still thinking about an mp3 ride. let's wait for our majesty's decision. and oh, do you have "Number Two" stories? comm'n tell na... oh ok. still have to talk to JP rin. wanna hear my story? ...sure. there was this one time when we were riding trails in sta rosa and i had to do a "number two". i've been bringing toilet paper during rides ever since. hahaha!
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Post by jr on Apr 2, 2008 23:26:32 GMT 8
My take.
I believe in karma. No hidden in Pandora's Box that someday will come out. The bad thing if there are kids involved. I seen, meet and talked some who were involved in this situation and was not good. Almost 90% end up to be separated because the trust is no longer there. Each party always thinks an unfaithful always be unfaithful. The hardest things who suffer most are the kids.
For sure in the beginning it was sweet, excitement, and adrenaline and tried the best solution not being caught. For long run the sweetness and exciting will diminished. Then become being careless and over confident. These are the downfall and finally caught. It similar to a thieves they always get caught at the end.
Don’t get me wrong. There is no perfect relationship. A person saying he/she have a perfect relationship is lie and hiding the truth. A couple always something missing and ups/down and is the best part. A constant adjustments and challenged during hard time it build a solid foundation of the relationship. Being unfaithful inside that relationship is weak, ego problem and luck of trust each other. But most of the reason this thing happen because of ego, luck of openness, communications and adjustments for both.
10 years in relationship and 5 years in one roof without commitments. It tells something wrong. Maybe since no commitments is an open relationship.
Just my 2 cents .
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Post by anshwa on Apr 2, 2008 23:32:29 GMT 8
This is one of those topics that would never be resolved. Everyone has dirty laundry & because of this premise, no one has any right to judge another. Winston Churchill was an alcoholic yet was one of the greatest leaders of all time. Adolf Hitler got drunk just once in his lifetime & was a strong advocate of healthy living but, we all know what he did. My late grandfather was a great man. She had a mistress & 3 children with her. But guess what, until he passed away, he was always there to help out all of us in the family. He was a committed father to my father & his siblings. He never got separated with my grandmother & the only time I saw him breakdown was when my grandmother passed away - I can not put into words how much it showed how much he loved her. He continued to give back so much to the community - even having this long line of poverty-stricken people in front of his house every Christmas (we actually had to keep everything in order - because people were coming twice). Two of his children with the mistress recently graduated college & the youngest one is still studying.
I'm a strong advocate of traditional values & I'm not here to condone cheating. I do my best day in & day out to keep these values intact with my own family. But the fact of the matter is that people do it for reasons that really only they themselves would ever know.
Sir Andre, I hope you & your friend find the answers you're both looking for. Everything will be very difficult but it will all work out in the end.
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Post by Ben Dover on Apr 3, 2008 0:43:20 GMT 8
great story anshwa...real story, dehins pelikula.
yup, mahirap talaga humusga...besides, even when people themselves tell you their story, they usually tell you only the things they want you to know...as far as they want you to know...and sometimes just what you need to stop you from asking any more questions..ang kulit mo eh..hehehe! ;D ...never the whole story.
i guess its should be enough that we recognize the fact that everyone has a chink in his armor...sabi nga nila.
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 3, 2008 13:27:09 GMT 8
@ enzo
it's going on their 5tth month already......
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Post by enzo on Apr 3, 2008 13:55:43 GMT 8
@ sir ben over i asked that question lotsa times to my friend...and her answer is..."it's worthy"...she told me that every little smile that their unfair relationship gives her is worth it...i told her that i really can't understand her on that and she told me that "if you were in my shoe" Sire_Andre. 5 months and counting,,, I guess she still cant decide whether to stay with the old one and dump the hunk and vice versa. Bear in mind that we still dont know if the hunk is unattached or married. No need to answer this brad. Just like what Ben_Dover said,, I have no further questions.
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 3, 2008 14:43:31 GMT 8
well i guess this will be a TELENOVELA thread....or should i say "THREADNOVELA".
hhmmmnnn, is this considered that "talking behind someone's back"? i'm just outta options...she's a good friend and my intentions are pure...
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Post by enzo on Apr 3, 2008 14:53:47 GMT 8
well i guess this will be a TELENOVELA thread....or should i say "THREADNOVELA". i'm just outta options...she's a good friend and my "intentions are pure"... ;D ;D ;D ;D I used to tell that to all of my girlfiends before ;D and their mom's used to tell that to their daughters after some time I went steady with their daughters. ;D
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Post by sire_andre on Apr 4, 2008 13:53:28 GMT 8
Sir enzo... my intentions are really pure, i guess if you were in my shoe then you'll say the same too... ;D
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Post by gadgets88 on Apr 5, 2008 12:59:00 GMT 8
2 persons in a relationship suggest that they are enjoying each other's company in a particular level different from a marital relationship.
It is not for anybody to judge, to condemn, to fix. Because there's nothing to judge! Nothing to condemn! Nothing to fix!
Each human relationship exists for a reason! In the end, it is our Maker that will do the judging, when it is Time of Judgement! Class, please review your religion textbook pages 11-14.
My wife often asks me if I have a number two,
I tell her:
NO WAY!
I will never have a number TWO!!!
You're always my one-and-only-one, eversince the day I told you I love you.
Every year I bought a card for you, in fact I buy the cards by the dozens because it's cheaper...
It says: To my one and only!
Honest!
;D ;D ;D ;D
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Post by allegra on Apr 5, 2008 18:03:29 GMT 8
peeps, i have only one question..uhm maybe a couple..but first question first...is it worth it? Daym, how I missed PinoyMTBiker hehe Speaking as a mtbiker/philospher , I'd equate that to - for every 2hrs of fun = 6 months of headaches I guess the younger you are , 6 months aint too bad But the older you get , suddenly you have flashes of ..."pu@#$%^na, ano tong pinasok ko!!" everynight before going to bed( kasi if your happy,malamang naka tsamba ka lang! ) Iba for women As long as they belive they are doing it for love , it's worth it! Yup , that's how dumb they really are ( I'm kidding girls!you know I am! ) Exception of course mga natural na sira ulo....who dont find the problems as headaches at all...kasi nga sira talaga ulo nila I recommend endurance sports, kasi you have no energy left for any kalokohan For the TS , I'd tell your friend to put her money where her mouth is and break up w/ the guy she's living in That way, her BF wont take her for granted anymore Sabihin kay hunk , mag triathlon nalang siya Tapos ikaw naman pumasok ngayon! hehe just kidding
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